I have just posted about the bigger perspective of love relationships and the struggles that some people may go through in their relationship. I really think that realizing the reality of love relationship is important for an enduring and happy relationship, as somehow our relationships just do not revolve our world only.

What I am going to share with you in this series is about how to deal with your parents if your parents are objecting to the love relationship you are having. This may affect anyone, be it young or old, and whether we like it or not, parents have a natural authority over us that we cannot just override at our fancy.

Truth be told, somehow on Loveawake online dating site blog, I have seen really few advices about parents objecting to love relationship. I guess the common response is just to endure through it all, suffer many tears and heartaches with your parents and sour everything in the family.

Some succeed but the relationship between their families are broken; others fail and their love relationship falls apart. Is there any way to find a place where parents will accept your love relationship and be happy about it?

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Why will parents object to your love relationship?

Before we begin trying to talk about how to handle parents in a love relationship, we need to discuss on why will your parents be objecting to your love relationship first? Sometimes we do not get it; we just think that they are unnaturally prejudiced against your partner or vice versa from your parents’ partner, or that many parents are being just unreasonable.

However, let me first say that no sane parents out there would want to deny their child to have a happy love relationship. So let me share with you what are some of the common reasons on why they can be against your love relationship.

Religion

Religion is a sensitive issue for many people. We know that many of us may even live or die for religion.

Usually, the reason why religion is such a taboo subject to discuss even amongst friends is because for some of us, religion defines our identity. Especially for the older folks, the Chinese typically believe that their root religion is Buddhism, and it is stereotyped that Westerners have Christianity as their main religion.

So if you happen to be dating someone who has not the same religious beliefs that your parents have, or if your religious beliefs are not the same as your partner’s parents’ beliefs, they will think it is a breach in their customs and to what they stand for. Some parents may even feel threatened because they think their son or daughter may convert into another religion for the sake of their love relationship.

That is the reason why some parents can be against your partner or you. I will not be going into details about different religions or it will be a very long post; it will be either shared briefly in my email subscription or for future posts.

Racial differences

Parents may agree to racial harmony and against racial discrimination verbally, however racial differences form a stumbling block within the mind and the heart. Somehow many people are just generally not comfortable with racial differences and may even reason in themselves, “Why choose a partner of a different race when you there are so many other candidates of your own race out there?”

Religion and racial differences are some of the most difficult challenges that you may face, because it is almost impossible to change your parents’ mindset and belief system about these things. You should not try to convince them too, because it usually becomes a disastrous argument where two parties are just trying to force their mindset on one another.

Your background and financial stability

You parents can be against your partner, or your partner’s parents can be against you if you come from a humble or a complicated background, and especially if you are not financially secure or independent currrently. Your background and your current career are very important because that is how parents will give an estimation of your worth in their eyes.

That is why we usually say that many parents are very “down-to-earth”. They do not care first on how much feelings you have for their daughter or son; they only bother if you are financially capable to provide for their daughter or be a help to their son, with at least a decent reputation in your background and job in both cases.

The reason is very simple; if you do not have the financial means to care for their daughter or son, it does not matter how much love you have because it will all be empty talk. So if you ever meet parents, never try to convince them on how much feelings you have, for it should be proven with actions and not words.

Bad impressions

Parents take note of bad impressions very strongly. They usually judge with what they can see and hear of your partner and vice versa for your partner’s parents of you.

Especially if your partner or you smoke, or behave inappropriately like making rude comments and slight vulgarities, or if any of you do not dress decently in your eyes, parents do take note of them seriously and if they feel you are inappropriate, these bad impressions are going to stick in them for a long while.

You can feel it when your parents are against your partner, or your partner’s parents are against you.

Therefore, it is better to find out quietly why are your parents or your partner’s parents are against your love relationship. Usually you will not be able to hear it directly from them; you will need to feel with your feelings and find out intuitively on what they are against your love relationship.

And if you know it, it will be much easier for you to seek a solution for your situation. I have said many times, never try to change parents’ mindset by just talking about it. Everyone will be justifying their stand with reasons, and you will get arguments instead.

In the future posts, I will be sharing more on how you can deal with parental objection in your love relationship.

If you know someone who is going through some parental objection in your love relationship, let them know about this post and blog to help them. And if you find my posts helpful, I will be also sharing a little more on my email subscription so do join at the right side of blog.